On Life & Change

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly,
but rarely admit the changes it has
gone through to achieve that beauty.
~ Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou was 86 when she passed away this morning. A beautiful person and a life well lived by someone who had a difficult childhood and grew up in a tumultuous time, to say the least. My life is certainly nothing to be compared to hers, but I love the quote above.  We’ve had lots of change in the Melissa Running It household lately and I’m still trying to figure out what all to share. Recently, this happened:


Mini-me was headed to prom. She decided make up would happen. At 16, she’s never worn makeup and still has no interest in jumping on the band wagon and liking anything because “everyone” likes it which means she was not impressed by Frozen and loathes the song, Let It Go. She’s been surrounded with change and I see her changing. Growing & maturing, she’s started her first job and has her first boyfriend. Lots of changes here.

Prom 2

I see these changes and the door to womanhood slowly opening, but I see these changes being built upon the foundation we laid down years ago. Mr Running It told her how beautiful she looked for prom. You know what she said? Thank you. She didn’t point out a single flaw, imperfection, or something physical characteristic that needed to be different or better. I love that. I love that she is strong enough to receive a compliment without being self-deprecating. I love that she was able to say thanks without giving it pause to wonder if it was true. I love that her self-confidence didn’t hang on what anyone else had to say about her appearance.

Unlike the quote above, I’ve noticed I spend far too much time focused on the challenges, difficulties, and circumstances I can’t control anything but delighting in the beauty of life these days. When someone pays me a compliment, I instantly leap to the “real” reason such a kind word simply cannot be true.  Then I read this little snippet of an interview Maya Angelou did last fall:

“I’m learning that I have patience and that patience is a great gift,” she said. “I know that people only do what they know to do. Not what they say they know, not what they think they should know. … People do only what they know how to do, so I have patience. I pray that people will have patience with themselves and learn more.”

- Maya Angelou

people only do what they know to do…I pray that people will have patience with themselves and learn more. Yeah. That. I know how to see things with a critical eye and read between the lines which serves me great in that whole professional side of life, but not so much personally. So while I’m working on having more patience with my body STILL healing from tennis elbow and a back spasm MONTHS AGO, I’m choosing to head the advice of Maya Angelou:


Did you grow up knowing anything about Maya Angelou?
What non-fitness things are you learning these days?

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  1. Your daughter (and your son as well) have great role models in you and Mr. Running It (I don’t know him but if he’s married to you, I’d say he’s all right). You have a beautiful heart and soul and I’m proud to know you, my friend.


  2. Your Mini Me is so beautiful just like you. Hope she had a wonderful time and her prom.

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